New Year’s resolutions already gone out of the window? In a rut with your work and your life?

When things aren’t going our way, things are going wrong or the motivation is waning because factors are impacting it,  it can become very easy to see ourselves as the victim.   Whilst we cannot always control our experiences, what we can control is our responses to those experiences. As Paul McGee says in his book SUMO, E+R = O or the Event plus your Reaction will lead to the Outcome.

When you are feeling frustrated, in a rut, or low about not achieving something then you need to press the reset button. Let’s concentrate on the outcome you want to achieve (or again if it was something you failed to complete). This could be on a micro level or it could be on a life-changing level. These are your goals. They will be shaped by your vision made up of your values, your purpose, and your envisaged future.

We at ActionCOACH Oakham & Kettering have a vision for our business; knowing what we want to achieve in 3 years’ time, is scary, exhilarating, and empowering.  It helps us to navigate the choices we need to make in the here and now and gives us a framework to work within.

Our values give us a benchmark to evaluate our options. Being clear on these means we can discount any decision that may not be congruent with our values. One of our core values is respect for others and we would very quickly rule out any action that would run contrary to that.

We have our long-term vision, a dream which hasn’t changed. We still want to be the best Business Coaching Business in the East Midlands. However, the goals to get us to where we want to be, have on occasion, been tweaked, for one reason or another we have reengineered and reshaped them over last year.

What I am getting at is goals are a changing entity, responding to events as they unfold. Driven by our ultimate vision of all business owners having someone they can trust to help them and their business reach the fullest expression of their potential, all our goals have the same direction – although sometimes they seem like they are going off at a tangent!

So my challenge to you is this: BE clear on your Vision and your Goals but don’t beat yourself up if things happen and they have to be tweaked, don’t think of yourself as a victim, respond in a way that will get you back on track to reach your ultimate vision, and remember, the ups and down’s are all part of the journey to success.

If you are floundering or wearing a Victim T-shirt message me, or email angelaturton@actioncoach.com